Dating when you have small children
People say that the death of a loved one, loss of a job and moving house are three of the most stressful situations – and we had to endure all three at the same time.I'm 39, and like many younger bereaved people, I've had to get used to a word I never thought would apply to me: widower.The heart of our family had been ripped away from us, and as much as counselling helped me come to terms with the reality, the gaping hole remained.After a while, though, I realised that eventually I would have to try to fill the gaping hole and I began to think about another aspect of my situation – being single again after 14 years of marriage. One day, my daughter asked me if I was going to get a girlfriend. After a pause, she asked with a hint of excitement: "Will we get a baby brother or sister?I discovered quite quickly that I hated the word, as it emphasised what I've lost.Nevertheless, in the months after my wife's death, a grieving widower was exactly what I was, all the while trying to keep things together to be a good father."Pardon sir, but I would like to inquire, how many pair of dirty boxers are strewn about your bedroom?
Both boys were brimming with news about Daddy's new friend, Joanne.So here is my advice about dating people with kids.Take from it what you will: Wait Even though my boyfriend was eager to introduce me to his kiddo early on, we waited a long time before it actually happened.It turns out there is very little literature on how to date someone who has children. After running into him over a period of months, we began dating.Overnight, I was thrown into a brave, new world -- one that involved a tween.